I feel like Sethe was overlooking a lot of good things in her life after the spirit left. She had Denver who would have really benefited from more attention. Also she had Paul D. I think she was trying to dwell in the past to much. The past is there for us to learn from. I think we should always remember the past but not focus to much on it because then your focus is taken off the future. The future is the most important part not what happened in the past. The past can only guide our decisions in the future. I have learned the hard way of focusing too much on the past and it can really cloud your decisions.